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At some point, you’re just going to have to say
“this is my body, and it is the right body for me.”

your body might be the underscore of self-destruction
with scars and stitches and broken skin and long nights
etched into your palms and in the bags under your eyes
but you are not an embarrassment and you are not
weak and you are not a failure, you are human and
capable of crumbling
so show off those wolf teeth and say
“this is my body, and I am surviving”

your body might be sharp angles or soft curves or
somewhere in between and every time
you take a picture of yourself, i hope some part of you says
“goddamn but do i look good today” because even if
ten hundred people call you ugly
if you’re happy, they have no power over you
because weight and worth have no correlation
so if someone comments on what you’re eating,
keep eating anyway and tell them
“this is my body, and it’s my place to say. i can change things
about it, but during this journey i still love all the things
i see along the way.”

your body might come with equipment you don’t want to use
or you don’t think really belongs to you and
you’d like to change and i want you to know
that’s perfectly okay because you were
never a mistake and i love you however you
were made and if someone tries to remove the choice
of how you express yourself, you show them
your hands all full of potential and say
“this is my body and if i choose to knock it all down
or rebuild or just change the color of the paint:
not a single drop is any of your business anyway.”

your body might come with injuries or illnesses
that make people walk on eggshells around you
as if you were made of glass but they probably
don’t know that cancer scars never stopped my mother
from making excellent desserts or how my brother’s
disabilities never stopped him from achieving
and now he’s making prosthetic limbs for children
because your definition does not start or end with
what you’ve struggled through
and i hope if someone tries to hold you back
you show them
“this is my body and just because it doesn’t work like yours doesn’t mean i can’t love it”

your body might come in any color of the spectrum
and you might carry the weight of heavy silences and
clenched fists but any person that tries to justify cruel behavior
with the idea that skin and equality should somehow
be interlinked - you already know but they’re wrong
and they always have been and i cannot believe
it is 2014 and i’m still having to explain this
so if someone so much as hints that they think
they can determine anything based on race
don’t say anything just punch them directly in the face
but then when you’ve laid them out and are
shaking out your fist maybe toss over one shoulder
“this is my body and it’s excellent”

because at some point you’re gonna
fall in love with all of this
like how my ribs are supersized and i’ve got
fat on my hips and my tummy has rolls and
my thighs like to kiss and maybe it’s not perfect
because my hips still crack and i messed up my back but
this is my body and
it might not be right for everyone
but it’s what’s right for me
and it took me a long long time
to realize this and i think it’s because
other people look at me and say
“this is your body and i would like it to change”
but
this is my body
and it’s just fine this way.

Essays from a thick-thighed Cuban with weird spindly arms (and capable of oh so much.) /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)

samflow:

Men’s Joker - l’artiste capillaire

Models: Jin Dachuan,  Rock Ji

Photographer: Jumbo Tsui

Best style. o_o

(via vixyish)

tonidorsay:

stand-up-comic-gifs:

Like fiery eyeball thing, no problem. But don’t even try to imagine a Samoan elf. (x)

For all my love of the books, the inherent racism remains inescapable.

(via sable-twilight)

dapperandswag:

Coming soon to Dapper and Swag: Griffins, dragons, and maybe even a pegasus.

I have a mighty need for these.

dapperandswag:

Coming soon to Dapper and Swag: Griffins, dragons, and maybe even a pegasus.

I have a mighty need for these.

nosleeptilbushwick:

theangryguardianangel:

ednaisdrowning:

racethewind10:

lolicrafter:

inga-na:

Actresses + suits

LADIES IN SUITS THOUGH

BLESS THIS POST

Let me just add some colour to this blinding parade of whiteness

Amber Riley – Plus Size Black Actress and Musician

Frieda Pinto – Indian Actress and Model

Nicole Scherzinger – Filipino and Hawaiian Musician and Actress

Camilla Belle – Brazilian Actress

Ms. Esther Taking-Lives-With-Her-Style Quek – Singaporean Fashion Director

Alicia Fucking Keys – Black Musician, Producer, Pianist, and Actress

Janelle You-Cannot-Seriously-Have-Forgotten-This-Woman-Who-Fucking-Slays-In-Suits-Every-Goddamn-Day Monáe – Black Musician and Composer

And the Badass Woman Who Probably Started It All
Bianca Jagger – Nicaraguan Social and Human Rights Activist and Former Actress

Bless this entire post.

OH BOY IT GOT SO MUCH BETTER :D

Yes good. :D

Gotta agree with the comments in the addition tho - *how* do you not include Janelle Monae in a post about women in suits??? And Esther Quek too, I mean REALLY.

(It is possible I have exposure bias from the dapper style blogs I follow… BUT STILL)

(Source: elizabeth-ackerman, via i-dream-of-dapper)

heatherkemeskyfanpage:

CHASSEUR WEBDITORIAL : HEATHER KEMESKY BY BEN COPE
by CHASSEUR on Mar 25, 2014 

Photography | Ben Cope
Styling | Richie Davis
Hair | Sunnie Brook
Model | Heather Kemesky @ VISION

…huh!

(via dapperandswag)

queerbois:

:: STYLE::
It’s Friday so try this #queerbois page-boi look today. It’s a pleaser! 

queerbois:

:: STYLE::

It’s Friday so try this #queerbois page-boi look today. It’s a pleaser! 

coooooat

coooooat

(Source: theshinysquirrel, via femmedandy)

At some point, you’re just going to have to say
“this is my body, and it is the right body for me.”

your body might be the underscore of self-destruction
with scars and stitches and broken skin and long nights
etched into your palms and in the bags under your eyes
but you are not an embarrassment and you are not
weak and you are not a failure, you are human and
capable of crumbling
so show off those wolf teeth and say
“this is my body, and I am surviving”

your body might be sharp angles or soft curves or
somewhere in between and every time
you take a picture of yourself, i hope some part of you says
“goddamn but do i look good today” because even if
ten hundred people call you ugly
if you’re happy, they have no power over you
because weight and worth have no correlation
so if someone comments on what you’re eating,
keep eating anyway and tell them
“this is my body, and it’s my place to say. i can change things
about it, but during this journey i still love all the things
i see along the way.”

your body might come with equipment you don’t want to use
or you don’t think really belongs to you and
you’d like to change and i want you to know
that’s perfectly okay because you were
never a mistake and i love you however you
were made and if someone tries to remove the choice
of how you express yourself, you show them
your hands all full of potential and say
“this is my body and if i choose to knock it all down
or rebuild or just change the color of the paint:
not a single drop is any of your business anyway.”

your body might come with injuries or illnesses
that make people walk on eggshells around you
as if you were made of glass but they probably
don’t know that cancer scars never stopped my mother
from making excellent desserts or how my brother’s
disabilities never stopped him from achieving
and now he’s making prosthetic limbs for children
because your definition does not start or end with
what you’ve struggled through
and i hope if someone tries to hold you back
you show them
“this is my body and just because it doesn’t work like yours doesn’t mean i can’t love it”

your body might come in any color of the spectrum
and you might carry the weight of heavy silences and
clenched fists but any person that tries to justify cruel behavior
with the idea that skin and equality should somehow
be interlinked - you already know but they’re wrong
and they always have been and i cannot believe
it is 2014 and i’m still having to explain this
so if someone so much as hints that they think
they can determine anything based on race
don’t say anything just punch them directly in the face
but then when you’ve laid them out and are
shaking out your fist maybe toss over one shoulder
“this is my body and it’s excellent”

because at some point you’re gonna
fall in love with all of this
like how my ribs are supersized and i’ve got
fat on my hips and my tummy has rolls and
my thighs like to kiss and maybe it’s not perfect
because my hips still crack and i messed up my back but
this is my body and
it might not be right for everyone
but it’s what’s right for me
and it took me a long long time
to realize this and i think it’s because
other people look at me and say
“this is your body and i would like it to change”
but
this is my body
and it’s just fine this way.

Essays from a thick-thighed Cuban with weird spindly arms (and capable of oh so much.) /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)

samflow:

Men’s Joker - l’artiste capillaire

Models: Jin Dachuan,  Rock Ji

Photographer: Jumbo Tsui

Best style. o_o

(via vixyish)

tonidorsay:

stand-up-comic-gifs:

Like fiery eyeball thing, no problem. But don’t even try to imagine a Samoan elf. (x)

For all my love of the books, the inherent racism remains inescapable.

(via sable-twilight)

taschkaturnquist:

Su. qCandy 2013

taschkaturnquist:

Su. qCandy 2013

(via fckyeahqueer)

dapperandswag:

Coming soon to Dapper and Swag: Griffins, dragons, and maybe even a pegasus.

I have a mighty need for these.

dapperandswag:

Coming soon to Dapper and Swag: Griffins, dragons, and maybe even a pegasus.

I have a mighty need for these.

nosleeptilbushwick:

theangryguardianangel:

ednaisdrowning:

racethewind10:

lolicrafter:

inga-na:

Actresses + suits

LADIES IN SUITS THOUGH

BLESS THIS POST

Let me just add some colour to this blinding parade of whiteness

Amber Riley – Plus Size Black Actress and Musician

Frieda Pinto – Indian Actress and Model

Nicole Scherzinger – Filipino and Hawaiian Musician and Actress

Camilla Belle – Brazilian Actress

Ms. Esther Taking-Lives-With-Her-Style Quek – Singaporean Fashion Director

Alicia Fucking Keys – Black Musician, Producer, Pianist, and Actress

Janelle You-Cannot-Seriously-Have-Forgotten-This-Woman-Who-Fucking-Slays-In-Suits-Every-Goddamn-Day Monáe – Black Musician and Composer

And the Badass Woman Who Probably Started It All
Bianca Jagger – Nicaraguan Social and Human Rights Activist and Former Actress

Bless this entire post.

OH BOY IT GOT SO MUCH BETTER :D

Yes good. :D

Gotta agree with the comments in the addition tho - *how* do you not include Janelle Monae in a post about women in suits??? And Esther Quek too, I mean REALLY.

(It is possible I have exposure bias from the dapper style blogs I follow… BUT STILL)

(Source: elizabeth-ackerman, via i-dream-of-dapper)

heatherkemeskyfanpage:

CHASSEUR WEBDITORIAL : HEATHER KEMESKY BY BEN COPE
by CHASSEUR on Mar 25, 2014 

Photography | Ben Cope
Styling | Richie Davis
Hair | Sunnie Brook
Model | Heather Kemesky @ VISION

…huh!

(via dapperandswag)

O_O

O_O

(Source: queerkystyle)

queerbois:

:: STYLE::
It’s Friday so try this #queerbois page-boi look today. It’s a pleaser! 

queerbois:

:: STYLE::

It’s Friday so try this #queerbois page-boi look today. It’s a pleaser! 

"

At some point, you’re just going to have to say
“this is my body, and it is the right body for me.”

your body might be the underscore of self-destruction
with scars and stitches and broken skin and long nights
etched into your palms and in the bags under your eyes
but you are not an embarrassment and you are not
weak and you are not a failure, you are human and
capable of crumbling
so show off those wolf teeth and say
“this is my body, and I am surviving”

your body might be sharp angles or soft curves or
somewhere in between and every time
you take a picture of yourself, i hope some part of you says
“goddamn but do i look good today” because even if
ten hundred people call you ugly
if you’re happy, they have no power over you
because weight and worth have no correlation
so if someone comments on what you’re eating,
keep eating anyway and tell them
“this is my body, and it’s my place to say. i can change things
about it, but during this journey i still love all the things
i see along the way.”

your body might come with equipment you don’t want to use
or you don’t think really belongs to you and
you’d like to change and i want you to know
that’s perfectly okay because you were
never a mistake and i love you however you
were made and if someone tries to remove the choice
of how you express yourself, you show them
your hands all full of potential and say
“this is my body and if i choose to knock it all down
or rebuild or just change the color of the paint:
not a single drop is any of your business anyway.”

your body might come with injuries or illnesses
that make people walk on eggshells around you
as if you were made of glass but they probably
don’t know that cancer scars never stopped my mother
from making excellent desserts or how my brother’s
disabilities never stopped him from achieving
and now he’s making prosthetic limbs for children
because your definition does not start or end with
what you’ve struggled through
and i hope if someone tries to hold you back
you show them
“this is my body and just because it doesn’t work like yours doesn’t mean i can’t love it”

your body might come in any color of the spectrum
and you might carry the weight of heavy silences and
clenched fists but any person that tries to justify cruel behavior
with the idea that skin and equality should somehow
be interlinked - you already know but they’re wrong
and they always have been and i cannot believe
it is 2014 and i’m still having to explain this
so if someone so much as hints that they think
they can determine anything based on race
don’t say anything just punch them directly in the face
but then when you’ve laid them out and are
shaking out your fist maybe toss over one shoulder
“this is my body and it’s excellent”

because at some point you’re gonna
fall in love with all of this
like how my ribs are supersized and i’ve got
fat on my hips and my tummy has rolls and
my thighs like to kiss and maybe it’s not perfect
because my hips still crack and i messed up my back but
this is my body and
it might not be right for everyone
but it’s what’s right for me
and it took me a long long time
to realize this and i think it’s because
other people look at me and say
“this is your body and i would like it to change”
but
this is my body
and it’s just fine this way.

"

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